I am increasing my confidence in communicating with the opposite sex while riding Uber & Lyft. I have two best girlfriends. One I have known since I was 6 and the other since I was almost 26. Both are married, one has 3 daughters. She is a few years younger than me but is wise beyond her years. The other is less than 1 year older than me and knows me better than almost anyone else on the planet. They both have patiently listened to all of the dramas and high points in my dating history. One is a great listener and the other makes me laugh when I am sad. The funny one made me watch 40 year old virgin after I broke up with an older guy. My ex was not like him at all! They both taught me that I don’t need a man to be happy and I can never settle for the wrong guy. I deserve the best.
They both know that I haven’t been on a real date for a long time. I’ve been asked out a few times since but I have learned that taking things slow is the best approach. I will suggest coffee first. Riding Uber and Lyft reminds me of when I used to have several male friends on the internet. You can say anything you want to. You can create a different version of yourself and there’s no commitment because you get a different driver every time.
So I’m not into lying but I have come up with the same safe script for every driver, male or female. It’s still easier for me to communicate by email or text than in person.
- Hi, How are you ____?
- Where are you from? (listen, wait for them to ask). I’m from WV originally but I live in CA now.
- What do you like to do for fun? (listen, wait). I like to travel and write and do yoga.
- If they ask what I do I say I’m in transition. I do stuff at my church.
- I ask them if they like their job.
It’s really fun b/c every driver is different. If they’re nice and don’t prod for personal information, I give them a big tip. Otherwise I only give them two or three dollars. I thank them and leave. The first time I did it alone I was a little scared but now I really enjoy it since I don’t go to bars. I will be okay being single for the rest of my life as long as I have family and friends and a dog or two. So, guess what single people you can survive without dating! I have! Yes, I will admit…the idea of meeting someone when I am doing karaoke in Santa Cruz, reading at church, or volunteering at the school has a lot of appeal…who knows where life will lead me. But I am running towards myself and my goals…not going to let anyone stand in my way.